'Being' an emotionally intelligent coach...

I would like to share with you my top tips as a successful 'Emotionally Intelligent Coach' with Different Dynamics.

I find the subject of Emotional Intelligence extremely interesting and there is an ever increasing awareness of its advantages with tangible results showing how the Emotionally Intelligent Leader is having a major positive impact upon their teams and business results!

All of our exciting Leadership work at Different Dynamics is underpinned by the values of Emotional Intelligence.

The four top tips are really quite simple! Believing in these tips and their principles and putting them into action will produce the most amazing results!

1. Self Awareness - this is how much you as the Coach are in touch with your intuition, thoughts and feelings. How well do you listen to what your body is telling you. As an Emotionally Intelligent Coach it is essential that you 'switch off' any pre conceived thoughts and feelings that will prevent you from judging your Coachee! We are all human and the idea is to give notice to the emotions that you are feeling and to know how to understand and manage these emotions so they will not hinder your Coaching relationship.

2. Managing Self - this follows on from 'Self Awareness' and is about how you value and respect yourself as a person. Managing Self or self regard is about 'who you are!' This is about you having a clear understanding of what is going on inside and how this impacts upon 'your world.' So by truly valuing and respecting yourself you will always value and respect others as you will understand the importance of this. This is a vital part of any successful Coaching relationship.

3. Empathy or awareness of others - how well tuned are you into the feeling states of others? Are you allowing yourself to truly listen and be fully present in the moment and 'on purpose', with the full intention to pay attention? Showing the Coachee empathy and understanding in a non judgmental manner will make for a fantastic relationship based upon trust.

4. Regard for others or Social Intelligence - this is how much do you value and respect the Coachee as an individual, remembering that the person and behavior are two separate entities and how important it is not to make judgements against the individual based upon your own values.

These are four basic 'tried and tested' principles to follow as an Emotionaly Intelligent Coach to get the most amazing and consistent results. Further reading is available by Daniel Goleman (Emotional Intelligence), John Kabat Zinn and Peter Senge

Simon Hill - Different Dynamics Leadership Coach and Trainer